I hate to disrupt other peoples lives to "help" me when I still feel able to do it all, but I understand why I need to start to take it easy.
It is just that my family lives pretty much on the other side of town, my mum does not like to drive in the winter and plus B does not like her to drive alone or even in the dark, my sisters have there own families to look after and yet they are all so willing to drop whatever to help me, to help my babies. I have been kindof an emtionial mess since the u/s (that I have hidding from family and DH) Seeing my unborn son so alive on the monitor and knowing that it can just change in the blink of an eye. I have been and try to go on as a "normal" pg but in reality this is not a "normal" pg I am highrisk not to mention my body fights off my pg's. My babies ahve to be and are fighters right from implantation "conception" I just hope and pray Rilon stays put till 28weeks and then we will take it from there...
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Oh honey... I am so sorry you are feeling all this stress and don't feel like you can talk about it. Please share it with me... I would love to help you bear this burden.
I was just telling Dave the other night how much you inspire me with your hopefulness and positive attitude even when so many struggles are thrown you way. I just wish that I was closer and could move you in or I move in with you til Rilon is here.
I do know from the last few months what it feels like to "feel like" you are imposing on others. But I know if you don't and something happens to Rilon you won't be able to forgive yourself. Please ask for help... I am sure your family would want you to. Would O be able to get family leave for a few weeks to help out??? You are high risk, surely there's a way to do that. Please let me know if there is anything I can do.
Get the help. I can't stress this enough. If you are anything like most women, you will push yourself too far before you even realize it.
Ask people what they they would like to do for you. Believe it or not, some people really enjoy doing certain chores for others. I hate doing my own laundry, but loved doing it for my best friend during her difficult pregnancy (unfortunately, she lost her child at 17 weeks). It gave me such a huge feeling of accomplishment and satisfaction.
I also enjoyed watching my friend's daughter recently. They asked for help as a last resort and I wish they would have asked sooner. My kids were kept occupied with someone new to play with. We had so much fun!
Also, even just a little help can make a huge difference. Any thing you can do to take the load off will benefit you.
Finally, don't be afraid to talk with others about what you are feeling. There are no medals for being super woman (or at least I failed miserably at getting mine). You've been through a lot. Add the wacky pregnancy hormones, the dreary winter weather, the chaos of holidays, and William's angel day...I'm sure no one would be surprised that you've been "kind of an emotional mess." With what little I went through, I was MAJOR emotional mess and my pregnancy isn't even particularly high risk. If you can't talk...write, blog, send email. Don't be afraid to get it out.
My heart goes out to you. Oh how I wish I lived closer so I could help in some way. Please feel free to email me if you ever want to chat.
((((Yvette)))) I know it's hard to ask for help. I'm a "do it myself" kind of person too. But you gotta do it honey. You gotta. Any neighborhood girls that could come over after school for a couple hours? Or have your mom do your grocery shopping for you?
You have a few short months to go... you don't want to end up on mandatory bedrest for the duration or have this little guy try to sneak out too soon. I wish there was something I could do. Lean on us. ~hugs~
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