We went on our 1st road trip with Orion. My mum Orion and I went to an old friend of mine Wedding in North Battleford SK. We left here at 10:44am and arrived there are 8pm not to bad for having a wee guy and getting lost....lol
The signs in SK are not very well put in my opinion, either they were missing or so far into the intersection that we could not see them plus you never got a warning as for the turn coming up till you were on it, so much for sharp turns. When we were to turn on route 21 I did not see any route signs till it said route 60 (ah can you say way past the turn off..lol) we were almost into Saskatoon a few miles past North Battleford. I stayed calm, I figured we will get there eventually and this was Friday the wedding was not till 3pm on Saturday so we had a few hours.
We finally made it to the Inn got settled in went and got Mc D's for supper then we went to sleep around 11pm. Around 1am you could hear this loud music (you can tell it was from a car) and of course it pulls up in front of our door they honk the horn and get out laughing, I could hear people talking and giggling then 1/2hr they get back into the car and honk twice (*&*%&#) ok they are leaving fall back to sleep, 2:15am they are back and once again honking there horn playing loud music they did not stay long again and left honking the horn again...... I was growling at this point...lol my mum was not impressed and Orion was still sleeping. Fall back to sleep again ... 3am they are back and yup honking again talking loud so I get up and call the front desk to ask if they had security she said no so I told her that we have some rowdies either in room 114 or 113 not to sure and they keep honking there horn and playing music, she said she'd call the rooms and also the RCMP. after that all was quiet....awe sleep finally..... One lesson learned out of all that is that Orion sleeps threw anything...lol
Got to the wedding it was a beautiful day she was a beautiful bride (well she has always been a beautiful girl) her two boys walked her down the isle holding up her dress for her as she walked across the path to the grass. She walked up to her future held his hand said there vows and sealed it with a kiss
Mum and I drove back Sunday morning and guess what we got lost (we came back a certain way and got lost in the big city that is 3hrs from my home. I have not been there in ages so the roads I thought I knew were closed off so I just drove around waiting for a sign to let me know what way to go...... ah we saw one which lead us to another closed road but I followed the other cars in front of me and then I saw another sign for HWY #2 that is what I wanted...... We made it home at 9pm, safe and sound. Orion was such a good boy threw out the whole trip never complained much only when hungry and a dirty diaper.
Once again I am so blessed with this little man in my life.
A what use to be a good friend (long story here) we are more of acquaintance.
Well she just had a baby girl (second baby after NEVER wanting any, had an abortion once too) She kind of dissed me and another good friend, yes we are a bit upset by it too.....anyways I just got a phone call from her neighbor that is giving her a baby shower for the baby girl "Aysha" (this is where I am upset) this is the name we have had for out DD if we should have one yes she new this ( I am kind of giving her the benefit of the doubt that maybe she forgot but I really don't think so), dh and I have had this name before we got married and everyone new it I mean EVERYONE, And here she named her DD it after she told me that they were thinking of naming her Adida.
I really don't want to go to the baby shower for a couple of reasons:
1) she dissed mine, after she told my sis she was coming
2) It is at 7pm Orion's bedtime is at 8pm
3) It just erks me and my other friend to pieces because this girl never told or invited us to her wedding (she was in both of ours) never told us she was pg (this is the second time she sprung a pg on me.)
do I have a right to feel this way????
I still don't know if I am going.
I don't want to be mean but then she never thought of my feelings that she never came to see Orion once, she only saw him when I happened to be at some breakfast party she was at (that is were I saw she was pg) then after that she came and dropped off Orion's baby gift he was 9month old at the time and the gift was now to small for him..
If I have a DD I will still use the name "Aysha"
Do you think they will get the hint...lol
By: Emily Perl Kingsley
I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this
When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.
After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."
"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."
But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.
The important thing is they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.
So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you never would have met.
It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around and you begin to notice Holland has windmills and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandt's.
But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say, "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."
And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away because the loss of that dream is a very, very significant loss.
But if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to go to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things about Holland.
And now anther has just found out her DS has leukemia, he is in the hospital right now he is about 3yrs old he is get transfusions.
Week 48
The beginning of the last month of your baby's first year. A year ago you thought it would never end,(so far from the truth) now you are probably wondering where the time went. Time flies when you are having fun right? Or so they sayÂ… (and they were right)
This is probably a bigger month for you than for your baby. Your baby doesn't understand the concept of time, and for a couple more years at least, his birthday really won't mean much to him. However, many moms feel a touch of the "baby blues" as it gets closer to their baby turning a year old. If you find yourself in this position, try to find support in other moms, possibly from a play group, who are having the same thoughts and feelings you are.
What Your Baby Might Be Doing
Your baby and his appetite will go through many changes. About this point his appetite might drop, while his interest in food rises.(this has started to happen) A baby on average triples their birth weight by their first birthday, but only gains a few pounds between their first and second. Don't worry about your baby not eating enough, he will eat all he needs, and will learn early how to stop when he is full.
What You Might Be Concerned About
Everyone around you is excited about your baby's first birthday party that is just around the corner. Everyone but you that is. You might be more concerned about over stimulating your baby, and you have good reason to be.Even a baby that knows everyone who attends his birthday might find himself a bit overwhelmed at having everyone there at the same time. Keep the guest list down to a select few, or better yet, have a couple of parties, one for family and one for friends. Keep the décor toned down as well. Remember, you baby doesn't understand or need a lot, and it is more for you and your guests at this point.
Make sure you plan the party at a good time for baby. Don't plan it for early afternoon, if you know your baby generally naps then. If he is overtired, he will not have a good time. Don't be afraid to let him eat and play in his cake. Many parents will choose to have two cakes, a small one for the baby to destroy, because he will destroy it if given the chance, and a bigger one for the party guests. Stay away from the clowns and other big "guests" for at least this year.
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So what is Orion really up to:
- He still just says Dada no matter how many times I say Mama to him Dada comes out of his mouth.
- He pulls himself up while holding on to my hands.
- He walks while holding our hands (and he is very proud of it)
- Finally starting to figure out that he can put food in his mouth with his own hands (well sort of, the food ends up in his palm which happens to end up in a fist he puts it to his mouth but not but 95% of the time it does not end up in his mouth because that fist will not open...)
- He tries to mimic the cats when they meow.
- He sleeps for 11.5hrs at night goes to bed at 8pm wakes at 7:30am (been doing that since he was 7.5months)
- He does not like it when I leave the room (how dare I)
INTERPRETATION OF RESULTS
so here are some of what NOT to say to a woman that is traveling the infertility road..
Never say these phrases:
"You can always have another."
They don't want another baby, they want this baby.
"Now you have an angel looking after you."
They don't want an angel, they want their baby back.
"At least you didn't know your baby."
Whether you held your baby in your arms or only in your mind, this baby is real.
"Did you do something you weren't supposed to do?
Did I cause this? How could I have hurt my baby?
"I understand how you feel."
Even if you have had a miscarriage, every one feels their grief uniquely.
"Have you ever thought of not having children?"
Yes, I probably have I realize that I may never be a mother.
"Be grateful for the children you have..."
It isn't a question of being ungrateful or not appreciating what I have.
It’s probably for the best
The best for whom? Me? The now dead baby? You? The greater good of the nation? This does not make the person feel better.
It was God’s will
You know my feelings on this. God as a baby killer? I don’t think so. You as interpreter of God’s will? Even less.
There was probably something wrong with it
“It”?? So if you have a child and he has something wrong with him you are going to send him back and ask for another one?
It was not meant to be
Crap. Why was it not meant to be? Who decides? Why would I conceive at all if it was ‘not meant to be’?
Luckily it was early
You mean before it was a real baby and I got attached? Nope, this does not make any difference. It still hurts, like mad. Some of us love our babies from the minute we found out we are pg.
You can always have another
Oh, so children are now interchangeable? I am sure having another one will make me simply forget about that little inconvenience of a loss. This kid, that kid, much of a muchness really.
At least you know you can get pregnant
Yes, what a relief, because we all know the goal is pregnancy and not an actual real live baby.
Ah buddy, sorry, but at least you have another one.
Yes, thank God for that, This baby was really a spare baby any way because really I want the next one more....
Maybe your not meant to be a mom
Say what!! Not meant to be a MOM, what gives you the right and what makes you so special?
my personal favorite that was said to me from someone I work with:
You owe a debt to God that is why you keep loosing your pregnancies
I for one do not beleive God works that way, why would he do such a thing let me become pg then rip this baby away from me, what have I done to him.... I don't swear, don't drink nor smoke anything, I am good to my neighbour, I respect others....Owe a debt to god, no I do not think so.
What not to say to someone suffering from secondary infertility:
Be grateful you have at least one child
Yes the person is grateful to have their child, of course they are. Does this mean they are not allowed to want more? If you suffer from infertility are you suddenly only entitled to one child? Why shouldn’t they be allowed to want another? Luckily there aren’t limits to the amount of children available, so them having another wont take away one of yours. Why should they be satisfied with only one child if they want two?
What not to say to a person who is facing any one of these (and other) situations: threatened miscarriage, bleeding in pg, a low beta, a non doubling beta, messed up hormonal levels etc.
My cousin’s aunt’s best friend’s neighbor had the same situation and she was fine
Yes, perhaps she was, but those situations are the exception, not the norm. Again, don’t be dismissive of the person’s legitimate fear.
What not to say to a person who is suffering from depression:
Just snap out of it
Depression is a disease, you don’t just ‘snap’ out of diseases. Do you think the person LIKES being depressed? No, it’s horrible.
But you have so much to be grateful for
Yes, and the depressed person knows this, but unfortunately when you are suffering from depression, all the things that you have to be grateful for do not cure the depression. Depression is not about being ungrateful, it is a medical condition.
What not to say to a person who has a very sick child in the NICU
What will be, will be
That is supposed to make me feel better?
What not to say to a pregnant person:
God you look awful, aren’t pregnant people supposed to glow?
(men = zero sensitivity). If I look awful, granted, but you are not supposed to actually say it!!!
What not to say to a pregnant person after infertility who dares to bring up any slight (or even more serious) negative aspect of pregnancy:
You asked for this / you wanted this
Yes I wanted a baby, I did not want to have pain / hemorrhoids / high-risk pregnancy / gestational diabetes / bed rest etc etc.
Just be grateful you are pregnant at all
See above. Also remember that we are grateful for the opportunity to have a baby (hopefully). No one in their right mind would be grateful for any of the above. Got that? Am grateful to get baby, am not grateful for the not so nice stuff. Accepting yes, but also allowed to have a moan about it.
(I am sure there are plenty more, feel free to add)
